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Can Surrogacy Be Ethical? A Mother’s Journey Through Loss, Law, and Love

May 28, 2025 3 Comments

After three miscarriages and countless tears, I found myself exploring surrogacy, not just as a medical option, but a legal and ethical maze. As a Nigerian woman married to a Dutch man, the complexities went beyond borders. Dutch law demanded altruism, while unregulated markets in places like Nigeria exposed heartbreaking exploitation. I found solace and insight in the ancient story of Hagar, the Bible’s first surrogate, and saw how her pain echoes in modern realities. Can surrogacy be ethical? Only if love leads, laws protect, and no woman is made invisible in the process.

My Period Was Always a Stranger

May 22, 2025 No Comments

My period was always a stranger. In boarding school, I only got it once a term, with pain so severe I relied on my anesthetists father’s medication. Years later, I found myself in a public park, washing up with sachets of water, ashamed and confused. The diagnosis came in 2006: PCOS. No answers, no empathy, just a suggestion to get married and take Clomid. Two decades later, I’ve birthed five children, become a nutritional therapist, and now I tell my story, not as a guide, but as a lifeline

The Sick Bay That Changed Me: A Boarding School Story That Shaped My Health Advocacy

May 15, 2025 4 Comments

In my Nigerian boarding school, sickness meant a visit to the sick bay, and almost everyone got the same treatment: paracetamol, folic acid, and antimalarials. But one tragic experience changed the way I view healthcare forever. After losing a dear friend to a misdiagnosed illness, I made a vow: I would never take my health, or any doctor’s decision, lightly again. This is the story of how that pain turned me into a relentless health advocate.

Health &Wellness

Can Surrogacy Be Ethical? A Mother’s Journey Through Loss, Law, and Love

My Period Was Always a Stranger

The Sick Bay That Changed Me: A Boarding School Story That Shaped My Health Advocacy